The Ultimate Bridesmaid Proposal Guide

Getting proposed to by the love of your life is something quite special and will be one of the happiest days of your life. Once this step is done, it is customary for the future bride to create some thoughtful bridesmaid proposal gifts for their closest loved ones to invite them to join the bridal party. 

Read on to learn everything you need to know about creating the perfect bridesmaid proposal gifts and discover the ultimate bridesmaid proposal guide.  

What Is a Bridesmaid Proposal?

A bridesmaid proposal is a special and thoughtful way to ask your closest friends to be a part of your wedding. 

There are many ways you can ask your loved ones to join your bridal party, such as by giving them a personalized gift, an elegant card, or even planning a fun-filled activity. You can let your closest girlfriends know exactly how much they mean to you by giving them a heartfelt gift while also giving them an official invitation to join your wedding party.

When trying to find the perfect time to give your favorite girls the ultimate bridesmaid proposal, you’ll want to do this after you are officially engaged and preferably have decided on your wedding date. Be sure to give your lovely ladies enough time to plan ahead in their schedules, so about 6-9 months before your wedding is optimal. 

Remember that along with your bridesmaid proposal gift, you can also shower your bridesmaids on the day of your wedding with a beautiful Bridesmaid Bouquet, with a matching bridal Corsage, to give them the ultimate bridal accessories. 

Now, let’s dive into how many bridesmaids you should have and how you can find the perfect group of ladies to make up your bridal party.

How Many Bridesmaids Should You Have?

When it comes to deciding how many bridesmaids you should have, the sky’s the limit. It is important to note that there is no perfect number and that you can choose as many bridesmaids as you want to include in your bridal party. However, there are several things to consider that may help you decide how many sweet ladies you’ll want in your bridal crew.

Most couples try to have a symmetrical wedding party, meaning that the bride and groom have the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, specifically for the processional. If your groom has five groomsmen, you would have five bridesmaids. This is a simple way to narrow down your wedding party. 

However, if you and your groom have a different number in each party, that is also fine. You’ll just want to have your wedding planner find the best way for everyone to pair up during the processional. 

Another way to decide how many bridesmaids you want is to look at your wedding budget and decide what costs you want your bridesmaids to cover. It is customary that the bridesmaids pay for their dress, shoes, and alterations. Depending on your budget, you can decide whether or not to have your bridesmaids do their own hair and makeup, or if you want them to have it professionally done, at your cost or theirs. 

Last but certainly not least, you should also choose reliable bridesmaids who will be able to commit to being there for your wedding and any events along the way. 

When choosing your bridesmaids, the bride typically chooses her sister(s), cousins, best friends, or roommates. Once you have considered all of these factors, you will select the perfect number of bridesmaids for the ultimate bridal party.

How To Create the Perfect Bridesmaid Proposal Gift

Let’s break down how to put together the perfect bridesmaid proposal gift or experience for your favorite ladies.

A Personalized Bridesmaid Proposal Gift Box

If you want to give your bridal party the ultimate bridesmaid proposal gift box, we are here to help. First, make sure to plan your budget accordingly and account for “thank you” gifts for your wedding party. 

Once you are ready to prepare your personalized bridesmaid proposal gift box, start by selecting the perfect box, basket, or vessel for presenting your gift to your friends. We recommend choosing a large rectangular or square-shaped gift box in a feminine, light pink color or your primary wedding color. Next, fill your box with soft, white tissue paper for all of your precious items to lay on.

First, add a wedding invitation, a save the date, or a handwritten card with your wedding details. You can also place a card here that has the question of “Will you be my bridesmaid” printed on it. 

Another option is to have this question written on top of the box or inside of the lid. You can have gorgeous stickers printed with the question or write the question yourself in a beautiful scripted font.

Once you have the wedding details and the special bridesmaid proposal question taken care of, then you can begin placing in all of the lovely keepsakes for your future bridesmaids. 

Add a glittering candle, a meaningful necklace for your bridesmaid to wear on your wedding day, and one of our Le Mini arrangements features a singular Eternity® Rose, set in a luxurious hat box-inspired round box. 

For a spa-like inspired bridesmaid proposal, fill your gift box with items to pamper your future bridesmaids. Select a plush item like our soft Luxury Robe as the base of your gift so that your bridesmaids can wrap themselves up for stylish relaxation on the morning of the big day. This robe features our classic Venus ET Fleur® logo on it and is designed to fit all sizes, making it the perfect gift for your entire bridal party.

Then, you can include smaller gifts to accompany your robe, such as a pink silk sleep mask with the word “bridesmaid” embroidered on top. You can also drop in hydrating facial masks, a sugar scrub, and lotion. Whichever items you decide on, your girlfriends will love your thoughtful bridesmaid proposal gift box and use your gifts to help them prepare for your big day.

Flowers With a Card

For a  simpler but still elegant bridesmaid proposal option, you can also choose to send each of your loved ones a stunning bouquet of flowers, along with a card, inviting them to be your bridesmaid and to be a part of your wedding party.

This option is particularly great if you have friends who live far away or prefer to send one main gift. 

Here at Venus ET Fleur, you can take your gift to the next level and unleash your imagination by designing your own arrangement of flowers. You can customize your flowers by choosing a box, your arrangement, a combination of rose colors, and writing a sweet note to your friends, saying, “I can’t say I do without you! Will you be my bridesmaid”?

All of your bridesmaids will be sure to fall in love with this heartfelt gesture and will feel so special to be included on your magical wedding day. 

A Bridesmaid Proposal Activity

Lastly, if you do not want to put together an individual gift for all of your friends, another wonderful idea is to plan a bridesmaid proposal activity or getaway. Have fun and be creative with this idea, and make sure to find a way to surprise all of your friends and loved ones at the end of your activity by popping the big question: “Will you be my bridesmaid?”

If you love adventure, book a private escape room experience for you and all of your girlfriends. Escape rooms are great for bonding and working together as a team. Try to find an escape room with a love theme or something fit for a girl’s night out. Then, once you and your girls escape, have a large banner on the wall, asking your besties to be your bridesmaid. They will be surprised and will have so much fun celebrating your future big day together.

Another exciting bridesmaid proposal activity is to plan a weekend getaway or a girls’ brunch date for you and your future bridal party. Get all of your friends together, enjoy a citrusy mimosa, and get matching pedicures. Then, head down to the beach and surprise your favorite ladies with your big news and your sweet bridesmaid proposal. 

Final Remarks

All in all, remember to use our ultimate bridesmaid proposal guide if you need any help selecting your bridesmaids or deciding which type of gift you should give for your bridesmaid proposal. Whether you choose to give your future bridesmaids a heartfelt gift or plan an exciting activity, they will be so excited for being chosen as a bridesmaid and will feel honored to stand by your side on your wedding day. 


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